17 4 / 2014

Anonym fragte: An abortion saved me. It saved me from an abusive relationship. It saved me mentally and physically. You want MORE crisis pregnancy centers? I got called a slut, I got told lies and was degraded. They didn't care about me, they didn't care about helping. They just wanted the fetus in me to be born. She didn't even know my name, but she knew that something killing me was still more important.

bebinn:

pro-choice-or-no-voice:

that-mouthy-christian:

pro-choice-or-no-voice:

oh-snap-pro-lifers:

I don’t know what you want me to say.

It appears you believe murder is an acceptable way to get out of a horrible situation. That the only way to get out of an abusive relationship when pregnant is to get your unborn child crushed and pulled out of you. Congratulations.

May you be happy for the rest of your life. - Gabbie

Wow, the civility in oh-snap-pro-lifers answer is near non-existent. They’re blatant disregard for the anon above’s well-being is astonishing.

The anon is trying to get you to emit empathy for their situation, which you are clearly incapable of, the only thing you are able to empathize with is a fetus, which isn’t saying much as fetuses are non-sentient beings whom have no thoughts or feelings (physical or emotional.)

Let this be a reminder that no matter how dire your situation may be, no matter how hard the choice was you had to make, no matter the reason, OSPL will make you feel like shit and provide no support, just judgement and hate.

To the anon: if you need anything we’re here for you. I know what you went through was really tough and you do not deserve the judgment and shaming OSPL has spewed at you. If you’d like someone to talk to Exhale is a really great post-abortion counseling hotline, no judgment just love. Stay strong, and just know you are not alone and you do not deserve to be judged or shamed. - Paige

If anon wanted support and comfort they wouldn’t have come gloating to a pro life blog.

All anon wanted to do was rub her abortion in my face to try and get some sort of angry emotional reaction from me.

If she wanted support she would have gone to you. I’m never going to support that. Abusive relationships are horrible, but abortion isn’t the only way out.

They, like many of us, are attacked by your movement on a daily basis for having an abortion, they were reaching out looking for an empathetic ear. They were not gloating, they were sharing their experience trying to help your community understand where they were coming from, they were trying to help you empathize with them, show you that their choice to have an abortion was our of need, and it helped save THEIR life, to which you replied like an asshat clearly unsatisfied with the fact that their life was saved.

In their case, they felt it was absolutely necessary to have an abortion as part of their plan to evade an abusive and possibly deadly relationship. Let’s take a look at the statistics shall we?

Provided by Your-Lies-Ruin-Lives:

  • "Pregnant and recently pregnant women are more likely to be victims of homicide than to die of any other cause , and evidence exists that a significant proportion of all female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners." [X]
  • "Pregnancy can be an especially dangerous time for women in abusive relationships, and abuse can often begin or escalate during the pregnancy." [X]

They did what they felt was absolutely necessary to save their life, so who the fuck are you to tell them otherwise? Are you them? No, so you don’t get to say what they should/should not have done, you have NO right.

I thought Christians were supposed to not judge and condemn? You may want to go back and do some reading, you can’t just pick and choose what parts of the bible you want to practice and what parts you don’t. - Paige

This is the most breathtakingly self-centered, confused response I’ve ever seen from an anti-abortion blog. I hope this person never works directly with clients or patients. The asker was trying to show that the pro-life resources they sought did more harm than good, and all they got from this “pro-lifer” was more verbal abuse and a complete (deliberate?) misinterpretation of their words. “Gloating?” “Rub[bing] her abortion in my face?” Unbelievable.

If you haven’t seen it before, a post on reproductive coercion had an amazing response from Curious Georgiana about how Planned Parenthood helped her survive her abusive, coercive relationship by providing unconditional, nonjudgmental support and discreet birth control services.

In contrast, the documentary 12th & Delaware features a woman who was encouraged by a crisis pregnancy center to stay with her abusive partner and have the baby, suggesting it would “change him.” In another instance, a woman in an abusive relationship was told by CPC staff that it was her fault for “not letting him lead,” that she was “subjugating his masculinity,” and that “spare the rod and spoil the child is meant for the wife as well in some more difficult cases.”

TRUST PEOPLE WHO ARE BEING ABUSED TO KNOW WHAT THEY NEED. Even if this means staying with their abuser. Even if it means making choices you don’t agree with. Their self-worth, self-reliance, and autonomy is already under attack - our job as support systems is not to reinforce that by criticizing or dictating their decisions. Enduring abuse is about survival, and only victims have that intimate knowledge to decide what needs to happen for them to survive.

17 4 / 2014

the-treble:

pixeeisnotyourpersonaljesus:

apersnicketylemon:

your-lies-ruin-lives:

escapedosmil:

your-lies-ruin-lives:

impuretale:

seraphknights:

cultureshift:

This is the Memorial to the Missing and contains over 50,000,000 pennies to represent the lives of each American child abandoned to abortion by a society and a culture that has embraced their destruction. We must prevent the need to add to this memorial. Take a stand. Get involved.
 ”How we treat the least of us defines us.”

"should I use this $500k to help struggling parents and pregnant people or should I put it in a glass box"

^^

Just a reminder that the prolife movement likes to spend exorbitant amounts of money protesting abortion, but absolutely nothing to help people who need the help so they can avoid getting one. 

500k plus however much i cost to pay the architect, the engineers, the labor, the fuel, the shipping and everything else. 
We’re looking at about 700k worth of wasted money that the anti-choice movement could have spent on actual sex education to prevent unintended pregnancy and thus, abortion. 

Or 700 thousand on top of the 250,000 spent on the “March for Life”.. And.. whatever those shitstains spend on travel and lodging.. and food. And you could’ve got some scholarships at a daycare to cover daycare for a single working parent. Or TONS of groceries..? Things that would’ve made having another child LESS painful to the kids 61% of them already have? 

They have spent literally millions of dollars this year alone (And we’re not even quite 1/3 of the way through the year either), on protesting abortion… and maybe a thousand on actually helping people. (A few donated diapers, a few bottles filled with spare change… not cutting it).
Their spending though shows their real priorities… and it’s not on the pregnant people or on the born.

This has me so angry I can’t even words.I’m just like

I wonder if there is ever anyone in their organization meetings going, “Hey… what if we like… used that money for stuff? Like stuff to help people?” And everyone’s like, “God, shut UP, Steve.”

the-treble:

pixeeisnotyourpersonaljesus:

apersnicketylemon:

your-lies-ruin-lives:

escapedosmil:

your-lies-ruin-lives:

impuretale:

seraphknights:

cultureshift:

This is the Memorial to the Missing and contains over 50,000,000 pennies to represent the lives of each American child abandoned to abortion by a society and a culture that has embraced their destruction. We must prevent the need to add to this memorial. Take a stand. Get involved.

 ”How we treat the least of us defines us.”

"should I use this $500k to help struggling parents and pregnant people or should I put it in a glass box"

^^

Just a reminder that the prolife movement likes to spend exorbitant amounts of money protesting abortion, but absolutely nothing to help people who need the help so they can avoid getting one. 

500k plus however much i cost to pay the architect, the engineers, the labor, the fuel, the shipping and everything else. 

We’re looking at about 700k worth of wasted money that the anti-choice movement could have spent on actual sex education to prevent unintended pregnancy and thus, abortion. 

Or 700 thousand on top of the 250,000 spent on the “March for Life”.. And.. whatever those shitstains spend on travel and lodging.. and food. And you could’ve got some scholarships at a daycare to cover daycare for a single working parent. Or TONS of groceries..? Things that would’ve made having another child LESS painful to the kids 61% of them already have? 

They have spent literally millions of dollars this year alone (And we’re not even quite 1/3 of the way through the year either), on protesting abortion… and maybe a thousand on actually helping people. (A few donated diapers, a few bottles filled with spare change… not cutting it).

Their spending though shows their real priorities… and it’s not on the pregnant people or on the born.

This has me so angry I can’t even words.

I’m just like

I wonder if there is ever anyone in their organization meetings going, “Hey… what if we like… used that money for stuff? Like stuff to help people?” And everyone’s like, “God, shut UP, Steve.”

(via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

"Ancient moon priestesses were called virgins. ‘Virgin’ meant not married, not belonging to a man - a woman who was ‘one-in-herself’. The very word derives from a Latin root meaning strength, force, skill; and was later applied to men: virle. Ishtar, Diana, Astarte, Isis were all all called virgin, which did not refer to sexual chastity, but sexual independence. And all great culture heroes of the past, mythic or historic, were said to be born of virgin mothers: Marduk, Gilgamesh, Buddha, Osiris, Dionysus, Genghis Khan, Jesus - they were all affirmed as sons of the Great Mother, of the Original One, their worldly power deriving from her. When the Hebrews used the word, and in the original Aramaic, it meant ‘maiden’ or ‘young woman’, with no connotations to sexual chastity. But later Christian translators could not conceive of the ‘Virgin Mary’ as a woman of independent sexuality, needless to say; they distorted the meaning into sexually pure, chaste, never touched."

Monica Sjoo, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth (via 231895)

(Quelle: ynannarising, via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

naamahdarling:

lalondes:

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T SCROLL PAST THIS.
Scarleteen is a vital queer and trans positive sexual health resource. Their staff do an amazing job of creating really comprehensive and helpful articles on literally every sexual topic you can imagine. They also provide live chats, advice columns, moderated discussion forums, and SMS-based peer support. This site has helped me on countless occasions, and I refer at-risk queer and trans kids to this site every single day.
Scarleteen is invaluable.
And Scarleteen needs your help.
During their annual donation drive this year, the site was only able to raise $1,500. Only fifty people out of Scarleteen’s 350,000 unique monthly visitors contributed to the fundraising drive.
This means that unless Scarleteen sees a stable, sustained, 50% increase in donations, the site will essentially be forced to go dark on May 1. No more new content, no more advice columns, no more forums, no more live chat, no more SMS support. 
This is devastating.
If Scarleteen goes dark, millions of young people, vulnerable queer and trans teens among them, will lose access to essential, fundamental sexual health resources. We cannot let this happen.
Please, please, please donate to Scarleteen. Consider making a recurring monthly contribution if you feel that this is within your means. Even $5 or $10 a month will go a long way to helping this very, very deserving organization.
And whether or not you’re able to donate at this time, please signal boost this and spread the word. Scarleteen does incredible, very necessary work, and they need our help.

This place does amazing, important work, and they are well worth supporting.  Sex ed in this country is a sick joke, and sites like this are having to take up the slack, run on donations from people like us who actually want the next generation to have happy, fulfilling, safe lives full of as much or as little sex as they want.


I spent hours and hours in front of the screen, reading Scarletteen, so yeah, right off, donating.

naamahdarling:

lalondes:

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON’T SCROLL PAST THIS.

Scarleteen is a vital queer and trans positive sexual health resource. Their staff do an amazing job of creating really comprehensive and helpful articles on literally every sexual topic you can imagine. They also provide live chats, advice columns, moderated discussion forums, and SMS-based peer support. This site has helped me on countless occasions, and I refer at-risk queer and trans kids to this site every single day.

Scarleteen is invaluable.

And Scarleteen needs your help.

During their annual donation drive this year, the site was only able to raise $1,500. Only fifty people out of Scarleteen’s 350,000 unique monthly visitors contributed to the fundraising drive.

This means that unless Scarleteen sees a stable, sustained, 50% increase in donations, the site will essentially be forced to go dark on May 1. No more new content, no more advice columns, no more forums, no more live chat, no more SMS support. 

This is devastating.

If Scarleteen goes dark, millions of young people, vulnerable queer and trans teens among them, will lose access to essential, fundamental sexual health resources. We cannot let this happen.

Please, please, please donate to Scarleteen. Consider making a recurring monthly contribution if you feel that this is within your means. Even $5 or $10 a month will go a long way to helping this very, very deserving organization.

And whether or not you’re able to donate at this time, please signal boost this and spread the word. Scarleteen does incredible, very necessary work, and they need our help.

This place does amazing, important work, and they are well worth supporting.  Sex ed in this country is a sick joke, and sites like this are having to take up the slack, run on donations from people like us who actually want the next generation to have happy, fulfilling, safe lives full of as much or as little sex as they want.

I spent hours and hours in front of the screen, reading Scarletteen, so yeah, right off, donating.

(via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

strangeasanjles:

the-fly-agaric:

caring more about animals than humans is not a sign of empathy, it is a way to distance yourself from problems that makes you uncomfortable.

when you talk about the treatment of animals and say “what if this was done to humans!?” remember that this was, or still is done to humans.

I have zero patience for people who prioritize Veganism over anti-racism and feminism

Exactly my stance.

(Quelle: the-fly-on-fire, via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

ticktockdearie:

doctorbee:

xwidep:

Scales

This is because Fahrenheit is based on a brine scale and the human body. The scale is basically how cold does it have to be to freeze saltwater (zero Fahrenheit) to what temperature is the human body (100-ish Fahrenheit, although now we know that’s not exactly accurate). Fahrenheit was designed around humans.Celsius and Kelvin are designed around the natural world.Celsius is a scale based on water. Zero is when water freezes, 100 is when water boils at sea level.Kelvin uses the same scale as Celsius (one degree, as a unit, is the same between the two), but defines zero as absolute zero, which is basically the temperature at which atoms literally stop doing that spinning thing. Nothing can exist below zero Kelvin. It’s the bottom of the scale.So.Fahrenheit: what temperatures affect humansCelsius: what temperatures affect waterKelvin: what temperatures affect atoms

I like how this very helpful explanation contained the phrase “stop doing that spinning thing”

ticktockdearie:

doctorbee:

xwidep:

Scales

This is because Fahrenheit is based on a brine scale and the human body. The scale is basically how cold does it have to be to freeze saltwater (zero Fahrenheit) to what temperature is the human body (100-ish Fahrenheit, although now we know that’s not exactly accurate). Fahrenheit was designed around humans.

Celsius and Kelvin are designed around the natural world.

Celsius is a scale based on water. Zero is when water freezes, 100 is when water boils at sea level.

Kelvin uses the same scale as Celsius (one degree, as a unit, is the same between the two), but defines zero as absolute zero, which is basically the temperature at which atoms literally stop doing that spinning thing. Nothing can exist below zero Kelvin. It’s the bottom of the scale.

So.
Fahrenheit: what temperatures affect humans
Celsius: what temperatures affect water
Kelvin: what temperatures affect atoms

I like how this very helpful explanation contained the phrase “stop doing that spinning thing”

(via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

(Quelle: memewhore, via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

sexeducationforprudes:

projectunbreakable:

seven photographs depicting corrective rape: the occurrence of sexual assault because of or as a way of fixing a person’s sexual identity

more info about project unbreakable here

original tumblr here

previously: nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by their friends/family

nine photographs portraying quotes said to sexual assault survivors by police officers, attorneys, and other authority figures

News Articles on corrective rape (TW - descriptive accounts of corrective rape):

The Independent: “Crisis in South Africa: The shocking practice of ‘corrective rape’ - aimed at ‘curing’ lesbians

Mail and Guardian: “Men are also ‘corrective rape’ victims”

As you can see media coverage is focused intensely on South Africa, but as these photographs show this form of hate crime is not limited to any one country. In fact, I believe that all these photos were taken in North America. 

Action Aid produced this pamphlet discussing corrective rape in South Africa

(via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014

jetrocketskates:

"Friendzoned again!" I shout, pumping my fist in the air. I made a new friend today. Today is a good day.

(via choosechoice)

17 4 / 2014